For years Heather and I have been advocates of adoption. We have supported families, given financially to non-profit organizations, and been involved in ministries that advocate for adoption all over the world. Decatur First Church of the Nazarene, where I served as lead pastor, at one time had over seventy adopted children in the congregation.
I hope to continually raise awareness regarding the great need for rescuing children around the world. Currently, nearly 18 million children worldwide have lost both parents and over 153 million have lost either one or both parents. Many parachurch organizations, denominations, and local churches are deeply committed to helping orphans find forever families. However, it is not enough.
The Bible calls us to “Defend the cause of the fatherless…” (Isaiah 1:17). Psalm 68:5 says, “Father of the fatherless and protector of widows, is God in his holy habitation.” God is a great protector and loving Father to orphans everywhere; He calls us to be His hands and feet. Hopefully, more people will be inspired to take action as it pertains to adoption and foster care.
Kacey Xing-Yu Powell
In January 2014 as I was scrolling Facebook I noticed that a friend had posted the following on her timeline: “Friends, this is Kacey. Kacey is a beautiful 13-year-old girl, who is waiting for her forever family to find her. She has Beta Thal major. She ages out of the adoption program in October 2014. What this means, is that if she doesn’t find a family by then, more than likely her transfusions will stop. If her transfusions stop, her life will end. Please help me pray that her family will step up, and she can live life to the fullest…”
When I read the post, tears came to my eyes. I sensed God say, “rescue her.” Immediately, I sent a text to Heather and asked her to take a look at the post. Within minutes she sent a text back with three words, “Let’s get her.” From that moment Kacey became our daughter and we moved forward with no reservations.
Several months before we were set to travel to China to finalize the adoption we received word that Kacey had undergone a major surgery. She had a splenectomy due to swelling from an iron overload. Kacey has Beta Thalassemia Major, and her body doesn’t produce oxygen in the red blood cells. Therefore, Kacey receives blood transfusions on a regular basis.
With regular blood transfusions, she gets the healthy red blood cells that she needs, but she also gets an overload of iron, which builds up in other organs such as the spleen and liver. We were hoping to have her home before she had any major surgeries. However, the orphanage thought it was critical to have the splenectomy. Many joined us in praying for Kacey and her current treatments have normalized her hemoglobin and iron levels. Thanks be to God!
Excited doesn’t begin to explain how we felt the night before leaving for China. “Surreal” is a better word. Heather and I were overwhelmed as we boarded an airplane to fly to Guangzhou to get our new daughter, Kacey Xing-Yu Powell. Never would you have convinced us twelve months before that we would have another child less than one year later. God did an amazing work in our hearts as we prepared to bring this beautiful little girl into our lives.
You can read Kacey’s detailed adoption story here: “Gotcha Day”
Lilah Shu-Nu Powell
In 2015, Heather and I began praying about adopting another child. We reviewed dozens of adoption files but didn’t find “the one,” until Summer 2016. If you’ve ever adopted you know what I mean when I say, “the one.” After several months of prayer and discussing the possibility of having another child, we felt that Lilah was our daughter. Together, with our kids, we committed to becoming her forever family.
Lilah was found abandoned in a small village when she was a baby (11 months old). She was sent to the Children’s Welfare Institute of Cheng Cheng County. She has lived in the orphanage her entire life. Lilah also has severe scoliosis. She’s had corrective surgery twice and is doing much better. However, her back needs more attention.
Some have told us that we’re crazy for adopting a second time. They’ve told us we’re too busy, too old, and already have too many responsibilities. They say we should be saving for retirement and looking forward to the kids being out of the house. While we appreciate people’s concern, we’ve decided that we’d rather have less stuff and rescue a child than retire early. For us, that is more rewarding than anything we can gain in this world.
Through the process of adoption, without realizing it, we learned that we are often victims of cultural influence. Society teaches us that we need to do things a certain way and that our families should function according to societal expectations. In the months leading up to our adoptions God reminded us that when we commit to doing what He calls us to do, He takes care of everything we need in the process. I’ve seen this illustrated over and over again by amazing, selfless, mission-minded people.
Being missional isn’t about what you do, it’s about who you are. If “who you are” is right, “what you do” will be right. To my readers: if you’ve prayed, gave money, or provided encouragement through the course of either of our adoptions, we say, “Thank You.” Whether you realize it or not, you have played a vital part in saving a life.
Imagine growing up with no one to call “family.” Imagine no father or mother, no brothers or sisters, and no extended family. That means no family get-togethers, no family vacations, no family holidays, etc. It really is hard for those of us with caring people in our lives to fathom. Guess what? We can change this reality one child at a time.
The happiness that comes from saving a child is beyond the most satisfying thing you can imagine. It has fulfilled our lives in ways that words cannot describe. Think about it this way: being born into a family happens biologically; there is no choice in who your family will be. However, adoption means that someone looked out at the entire world and chose another person. I don’t think we can conceive the gravity of what it means to rescue a child: to choose another human being to love unconditionally the same way God loves us. It really is a miracle.
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She is so beautiful! I have and will continue to pray for her and you all. I know God will have her home soon.
Im wondering were you are now in the adoption? How much longer will it take? Do you have a time you will be going over to meet her?
Having been through this process 6 times, I can identify with so much you have said here. My wife, Marjorie, and I will be praying for you and your family. Feel free to reach out to us if we can be of any encouragement or help. God is faithful.
Adoption is a journey that I would take a hundred times over if I had the opportunity. The adoption of our three boys is one that has brought so much joy to our lives. One of my personal desires is to write a book about our adoption journey entitled: Zero to Parenthood: Faith, Hope, and Adoption. Thank you for sharing your story and being an advocate for children who need loving, Christian homes.
Brian–I’m really blessed by this post. As a 3-time adopting dad, I love adoption stories, and love parents who adopt. I’ll share and ask a little more in a FB message.
Brian–As a 3-time adopting dad, I love this post! I love that you are fighting against the prejudices and negative attitudes that so many folk have about adoption. Thank you. I’ll comment further in a personal message on FB.